I am the author of two books:Unfinished: An GLBT Domestic Violence Workbookand I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Codependent, Sex and Love Addict. As an author, I write about things important to me. My two books came at two very different points in my life. Unfinished was written while I was still in my graduate school work. I wanted to offer the community a guide to working through the pain and grief of being in a domestic violence relationship. So many of my LGBT community members have suffered in silence, but the statistics are roughly the same as heterosexual survivors. I was once a victim and now I am a survivor.
And as a survivor, I Just Wanted Love was born. After many years of intensive therapy and 12 Step recovery, I was able to understand how I ended up in abusive relationships time and time again. This memoir is by far one of the most important works I have ever done. It is raw, unflinching, totally empowering, and a true gift born out of my sobriety and recovery.
"A book about sexual addiction can be a difficult sell. But anyone who has struggled to overcome compulsive behavior (and even those who have loved such individuals) should be able to relate to I JUST WANTED LOVE. This is partially due to the fact that author D.J. Burr, LMHC, NCC, S-PSB has not only lived through and overcome the problems of codependency and sexual addiction but, as a licensed therapist, specializes in working with individuals with the same issues. So not only is he equipped to clearly yet objectively explain the situation, but he also points out underlying similarities by for example, enumerating the various phases of predation, such when Kenny, a much older and married family friend starts “grooming” the author during his teenage years (Chapter One). This provides insight and sets the stage for compassion and understanding. Rather than focusing on the “bad old days” a common misstep in many such books about addiction–the author concentrates equally on recovery–more useful information for all parties." -- Judge, 23rd Annual Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Award
4.6 out of 5 - Amazon.com
"I was dumbfounded after reading his book - my jaw nearly hit the floor. Although not for the faint of heart, this book should absolutely be on any sex and love addict's or related professional's reading list."--Brian G., Advanced copy reader
Intense. Honest. Powerful. "As a reader, I find enjoyment in learning about others and gaining a greater understanding of people's journeys in life. This book did that for me. The topics discussed were difficult and intense, at times, to read. But I appreciate DJ's honesty, openness and willingness to share his experiences and truth. This is a book I will share with others. I think there are elements within these pages that every person has experienced or can relate to on some level....dysfunctional families, broken relationships, communication issues, secrets, lack of boundaries, breaking promises to oneself....it's all there. Therapeutic for the author and thought provoking for the reader, to say the least." -- K.Brooks, Amazon purchaser
5 Stars - Love I hate reading but every once in a while a book gets my attention. I believe I read the first 9 chapters in a day. Then I moved out of state and have been very busy, but i just finished it up in 2 nights. There are so many ways that I can relate. I went back to Alanon because of this book and I am looking for a CODA meeting in my area. Thanks DJ for sharing and for giving others inspiration..Hugs-- Linda P. , Amazon purchaser